THE PROBLEM
ISN'T WHO
YOU LOVE.
IT'S HOW.
A research based framework for understanding the behavioral patterns driving your relationships into the ground — with step by step instructions on building something that actually lasts.
Get the Book — $4.99 →Creator of the Re/Model Framework · PhD, in Clinical Psychology
YOUR FEED IS
DROWNING
IN RELATIONSHIP ADVICE.
Every creator has a quiz, a red flag list, and a 60-second fix for your attachment style. And yet — here you are, in the same patterns you've always been in.
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WHEN EVERYONE SOUNDS
LIKE A RELATIONSHIP EXPERT,
ONLY ONE THING
STILL CUTS THROUGH.
A real book. Research-backed framework. 65,000 words of actual thinking built on a decade of practice and original research. Within the first chapter, readers know it's different because that kind of depth cannot be produced in 60 seconds.
THE BOOK IN
THE WORLD.
When the framework clicks, people want to hold onto it.
SIX WAYS THE BOOK
BEATS EVERYTHING
ELSE YOU'VE TRIED.
Not opinion. These are the gaps you close the moment you stop scrolling and start reading something built to actually change you.
you close the moment you read it.
DIFFERENT PEOPLE.
DIFFERENT PATTERNS.
SAME TURNING POINT.
Composites from real clients and Re/Model cohort participants. The details are different. The pattern is not.
She did everything for every relationship she was in. Planned the trips. Held the feelings. Showed up when they didn't. Every partner eventually left and every time, she couldn't understand why giving everything wasn't enough.
She named the pattern. Understood that what she called love had been functioning as a bargain and that the bargain was the problem, not the giving.
He knew he overreacted. He'd apologize every time, mean it every time, and watch the same thing happen again. His nervous system kept score across fifteen years even when he'd decided to move on.
He stopped calling it anger and started calling it fear. The reaction didn't disappear but for the first time, he could see it coming before it arrived.
She was the therapist who couldn't stay in her own relationships. Things would go well then something would shift and she'd check out, find a reason, leave. She'd called herself commitment-phobic for so long she'd started to believe it.
She identified what she was protecting. The disappearing wasn't fear of commitment — it was fear of being seen and found lacking especially because of her profession. That was a different problem. One with a different solution.
EVERY YEAR YOU DO
NOTHING IS ANOTHER
YEAR YOU REPEAT IT.
This isn't abstract. It has a number. And once you see it, the $4.99 decision makes itself.
Most people don't spend years in the wrong relationships because they don't care. They spend them because no one gave them the tools. This book does that. In one sitting. Before the next relationship costs you another decade.
WHICH ONE
ARE YOU?
Most people have been describing their symptoms for years. What they've been missing is the root cause. These are the four patterns and one of them is running your relationships right now.
You're not commitment-phobic. You're protecting something and you pull back right at the moment closeness becomes real.
"Things were going so well, and then I just… checked out."
You've built your entire relational identity around being needed. It feels like love. It functions like a bargain.And when your partner doesn't hold up their end, it reads as betrayal.
"I do everything for this relationship. Why can't they just meet me halfway?"
You don't overreact. You react with the full weight of every time something like this has happened before. Your nervous system keeps score even when you've decided to move on.
"I know I blew up. But it wasn't about what they said it was the way they said it."
You've done the work. Read the books. Had the therapy. You know better and still you can't stop waiting for the other shoe to drop. Trust isn't the issue. Evidence is.
"I want to believe this is different. I just need more time to be sure."
THIS BOOK DOESN'T
GIVE YOU ADVICE.
IT GIVES YOU ANSWERS.
Not the kind that feel good for a week but the kind that fundamentally change how you read a situation before it goes sideways.
EVERY TOOL YOU NEED
TO APPLY THE WORK.
Three minutes. Your dominant pattern, the specific fears driving it, and a clear picture of how it's showing up right now built to go alongside every chapter.
The complete visual map of all four patterns: their origins, triggers, and behavioral signatures. A reference you'll return to every time something lands differently than you expected.
A step-by-step protocol for returning to baseline after a relational rupture, before you say the thing that makes it worse. Designed for use in the moment, not after.
Ten targeted exercises. One for each moment where your pattern is most likely to activate. Not journaling prompts. Specific interventions for specific situations.
DR. CARLOS
HINES
PhD · Creator of the Re/Model Framework™
Carlos didn't write this book because he had the answers. He wrote it because he too experienced failed relationships, watched too many people in his practice, in his life, in the spaces he occupied mistake the fact that they loved someone for proof that they knew how to love them well.
His work sits at the intersection of relational psychology, trauma theory, and behavioral pattern research. The Re/Model Framework™, which underpins every chapter of this book, emerged from over a decade of working with individuals & couples and original research conducted in New York City. It is not a self-help magical system. It is a way of seeing. And once learned, it cannot be unlearned.
Dr. Hines has worked with private clients, delivered keynotes to audiences around the world, and established one of the most direct, research-grounded and intellectually rigorous voices in relational psychology today. He doesn't describe the symptoms. He names the source.
THE BOOK IS NEW.
THE FRAMEWORK & RESEARCH ISN'T.
This work didn't start with the book. Dr. Hines has been developing, testing, and applying the Re/Model framework™ for over a decade. The book is the first time it's existed outside of a private session.
Dr. Hines spent years conducting original street research in New York City interviewing more than a thousand people about their relationships. The finding was consistent: not one person had been explicitly taught how to have a healthy relationship. That gap is what this book was built to close.
EVERYTHING YOU NEED
TO BREAK THE PATTERN.
The full book plus four companion tools we normally sell separately. Bundled only during launch week.
A research-based framework for understanding the behavioral patterns driving your relationships and building something that actually lasts.